Articles By Rebecca Mariolis

Little girl

Dear Rebecca:

I am Somali and I have been struggling with my hair for ages, trying to comb it out, brushing it and braiding it. All in all, I haven’t been embracing my curly hair. When I finally read about the no-poo method, I was all for it. It's GREAT!

My problem: while my hair looks significantly better than it ever did, my hair still remains frizzy. My curls do not stay defined and I can find tiny hairs sticking out all over the place. I attached a picture of myself. That is a picture of my hair semi-wet, and you can still see the frizz.

Here's what I do when I wash my hair:

- Shampoo the scalp
- Apply olive oil and rinse it
- Get out of the shower
- Apply conditioner (Garnier Sleek and Shine)
- Apply coconut milk
- Air dry

The next day: Refresh with water and conditioner.

I wash my hair every four to five days. By the end of the process, my hair feels as if there is so much product in it and very greasy. My hair is really not pleasant to the touch. And with all that product, I end up with frizzy hair. What am I doing wrong? What can I do to better define my curls and keep them frizz free with out so much product?

 

Dear Frustrated Frizzy:

First, I have to say you have lovely curls!

Now as far as my recommendations, based upon what you told me, I would start first with cutting down the number of days you shampoo your hair. Clean hair is notorious for being frizzy because it doesn’t have any weight to help control the frizz.

Second, I think I would suggest that you pick from either the coconut milk or the Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine. Ultimately, too many products are going to cause the hair to feel weighty, and not pleasant. I think if you cut down the number of days you wash your hair, and add fewer products to your hair, you will find that the natural oils from your hair will aid in the definition and separation of the curls. Then whatever styling product you decide to use will only help the natural oils do the work to control the frizz.

But, before you do all of this, I suggest beginning with a completely clean pallet of hair by shampooing the hair with a deep cleansing shampoo. Try Design Essentials Organic Cleanse Deep Cleansing Shampoo which will remove impurities from the hair and the scalp while leaving your hair’s natural moisture content intact. Now, I know I said above to minimize the number of days that you wash your hair, but starting a new product regimen off with a fresh clean head will allow for you to really see true results.

Now, once you’ve washed the hair, follow by conditioning with an extremely moisturizing conditioner. You can try Design Essentials Stimulations Moisturizing Conditioner which is designed to replenish moisture from root to end. Apply this to damp, towel dried hair and comb through using a wide tooth comb to ensure maximum saturation. Leave this in the hair for up to ten minutes, then rinse with cool water to lock in all additional moisture.

Then follow with your regular styling regimen and finish as usual. If you find that this does not work for you, try adding a smoothing styling gel which will cut down on frizzy hair, but add much needed hold. Good luck and please update me on your results!

Hair Love,

Rebecca

 

 


Little girl

Dear Rebecca:

I’m 14-years-old. I've been growing my hair natural for almost over a year now, and it’s not even on my shoulders. I’m so tired of being the only girl with short hair and weave. I'm also tired of being made fun of because of my hair.

I think I know the reason behind it as well: I use a lot of weave and braids since I’m in school, and don’t have a clue how to manage natural hair. So this summer, I have been trying a puff and trying to straighten my natural hair. I was wondering: is this the best thing I can do to finally get out of this short/medium length hair.

Dear Growing Slowly:

If natural hair is what you really, really want, then hang in there! Hair typically grows ½ an inch per month. Now, that is based upon the individual eating the right foods for healthy hair, exercising and drinking a lot of water.

Whenever I get asked how to grow long hair fast, my response is always to drink as much water as you can. This is necessary because water hydrates the body and helps to regulate the circulatory system, which feeds the hair follicle, which then stimulates hair growth.

There have been some reports that have shown that Biotin hair growth supplements can aid in the growth of hair. However, I would first consult with your health care professional.

So, here are my recommendations: drink as much water as you can, eat well (no processed foods, fast foods, or anything with too much starch), and exercise regularly. In this case, the miracle pill is water.

Good luck, and I know you will reach your hair goals!


Little girl

Dear Rebecca:

I'm a relatively new wavy hair girl, type 2A/2B, depending on how my hair wants to behave that day. I don't use heat styling tools or any chemical treatments on my hair, so there's no damage. After battling with loss of elasticity and a horrible brittle feeling, I learned that my hair hates protein. Anything with protein in it will leave my hair feeling damaged with little to no bounce. Silicone hair products also make my hair feel slimy or waxy, and they remove most of the wave.

Down to my question: I'd love to have a lightweight creme-type styling product for days when I just let my hair air-dry. Something that will help hold the wave without crunchiness or stiffness, and that will help with frizz. My only difficulty is that every time I find a promising product, it either has proteins, silicones or both. Do you have any product recommendations for me?

 

Dear Hair Twin:

Don't despair. Many other wavies haven't had much luck with protein or silicone hair products. What you need is a good leave-in conditioner. This, I’m all too familiar with because, seriously, we're hair twins! A good leave-in conditioner will provide moisture to your hair, help eliminate frizz, and add definition to your waves. You’ll instantly be able to tell the difference in your hair when it air dries. I recommend a creamy leave-in conditioner like Design Essentials Hydrate Leave-In Conditioner.

Apply Hydrate after your hair has been cleansed and conditioned. Apply a nickel to quarter size amount, depending on the length of your hair, and gently comb Hydrate through your strands. Allow your hair to air-dry. The result should be soft, silky hair without frizz! If you find you are in need of something lighter, try a spray leave-in conditioner. I heart Design Essentials HCO Leave-In Conditioner. It gives the right amount of weightless moisture to any type of hair. Just lightly mist, comb, and go! I think you will be extremely happy with your hair.

Good luck, twin!

 

 


Little girl

Dear Rebecca: 

I'm a relatively new wavy hair girl, type 2a/2b depending on how my hair wants to behave that day!  I don't use heat styling tools or any chemical treatments on my hair, so there's no damage.  After battling with loss of elasticity and a horrible brittle feeling, I learned that my hair hates protein. Anything with protein in it will leave my hair feeling damaged with little to no bounce.  Silicones make my hair feel slimy or waxy and they remove most of the wave.

Down to my question: I'd love to have a lightweight cream type styling product for days when I just let my hair air-dry. Something that will help hold the wave without crunchiness or stiffness, and that will help keep my no-frizz style.  My only difficulty is that every time I find a promising product, it either has proteins, silicones or both. Do you have any product recommendations for me?

 

Dear Hair Twin:

It sounds like you are in need of a good leave-in conditioner (this I’m all too familiar with because seriously, we are hair twins). A good leave-in conditioner will provide moisture to your hair, help eliminate frizz, and add definition to your waves. You’ll instantly be able to tell the difference in your hair when it air dries.

I recommend a creamy leave-in conditioner like Design Essentials Hydrate Leave-In Conditioner. Apply the product after your hair has been cleansed and conditioned. Apply a nickel to quarter size amount depending on the length of your hair, and gently comb it through your strands. Allow your hair to air-dry.

The result should be soft, silky no-frizz hair! If you find you are in need of something lighter, try a spray leave-in conditioner. I heart Design Essentials HCO Leave-In Conditioner. It gives the right amount of weightless moisture to any type of hair. Just lightly mist, comb, and go! I think you will be extremely happy with your hair.

Good Luck, Twin!


Little girl

Dear Rebecca:

I have 3b textured hair. Could I cut a collection of curls short so that they cascade over my forehead or would they bush out? At present my hair is just above my shoulder and all the same length.

Dear Beautifully Curly:

Do me a favor and step away from the scissors. Take a deep breath. I really want you to make sure you are ready for this sort of commitment. The best way to determine if you’re ready for a cut is to find a professional curl stylist for a hair consultation. You’ll be able to share what you’re looking for, and they’ll be able to provide you with a professional recommendation.

In my experience with curly hair, any sort of a fringe (bang) can run you into some big problems like frizz and extreme shrinkage. It’s best that you get another set of eyes on your curls and see how they could potentially react. I know this isn’t what you wanted to hear, but I just want to be honest with you.
 


Little girl

Dear Rebecca:

I am a former stylist with very curly thick long hair, and I know how to care for it. However, the humidity here in Florida makes my hair volume huge by the time I get home from work. I have been out of the salon for some years now, and have never found a product that minimizes the volume. Can you help please?

Dear Curly Stylist:

I want to be real with you and tell you there are many great products on the market that can really help with frizz control and volume. However, they can only hold for so long until Mother Nature wins with her crazy humidity (especially in Florida).

help prolong your curly style without volume, try spraying a holding spray in your hair periodically throughout the day. A holding spray will provide hold and protection, which can help to prolong your style, and minimize your volume for a short time. I suggest Design Essentials Formations Styling Spritz. Just a few sprays throughout the day, and viola: hair with no frizz (aka crazy volume).


Can I French Braid My Curly Hair?

Dear Rebecca:

I absolutely love the braided styles that trend with spring and summer clothing. They're so feminine and there's something very organic about rocking a beautiful French braid.

It's very simple to braid straight hair; however, I have 3c curls that tend to frizz if I style them beyond soaking wet. When I gently stretch a curl, it lingers somewhere between my armpit in the front and my shoulder blades in the back. How can I achieve some of the beautifully side-swept styles that I see today? I get so frustrated knowing that I have enough hair, but can't French braid it because of shrinkage and frizz! Thanks!

Dear Frenchie love:

The easiest way to support this style would be to begin in the evening (so you have time for your hair to stretch overnight). While your hair is wet, use a silk-based smoothing serum like Design Essentials Silk Essentials. Apply quarter-sized amounts to the palm of the hands, emulsify and apply, working from the ends to the roots, ensuring that you are focusing most of the product to the middle and the ends of the hair. Next, start to braid your hair in a tighter braid more than you normally do. By braiding it tighter, the hair will actually be forced to smooth out, which helps to pull the curl out. Then go to bed. In the morning pull the braid out (it will still be wet but the curl will be looser) and re-braid with your desired tension. Your curly French braid should last throughout the day.


Dear Rebecca: My whole family has curly hair. I've fought through just about all the problems, from keeping it easy, drying my hair and determining what product works for me. I only have one problem: I am really busy, and I have really long curly hair. I take a shower at night because I don't have time in the mornings before school. But when I wake up, my so-called luscious locks are a frustrating frizz.

I've tried everything from braids to hair wraps—nothing works. What am I to do? And should I cut my hair? I don't like spending a lot of time on my hair. Is short curly hair easier to take care of? Can I have bangs? I'm so lost and I'm dying for a change. What can I do? HELP!


Dear Sweet Frizz: Okay, I hear you. You are ready for a change, something different. But before you dive into bangs or a short haircut, take the time to search out a look that you want. Then make an appointment with a curly hair stylist. This is soooo important because the stylist will use your pictures (of what you’ve researched) to guide you and give you realistic expectations with all of your ideas. They may have a few suggestions of their own.

I will also say that if you are having difficulties with the length of your hair, you may want to simply evaluate the length. Obviously the length will determine the amount of time you must spend on it (longer hair—long time, shorter hair—shorter time).

I wish you well on your journey, and I’m sending you good hair vibes.


Ask Rebecca Mariolis

This is what my hair looks like with a ton of product.Ask Rebecca MariolisThis is an example of what my hair is really like, but I think mine may have more curl.

Dear Rebecca: I am convinced that I have some of the worst curly hair around. It's somewhere between type 3 and type 3c I believe. It is copper red, dry, very coarse, and frizzy. No matter what I do to it or put in it, it will always frizz. It is poofy! Without product in it, I will have a fro. I cannot wear it straight because it refuses to stay straight in any weather condition. My roots refuse to straighten and my hair will poof in a matter of minutes. When wearing it curly I put a ton of mousse and gel in it. The front is okay but the back always frizzes. In order for me to get my hair under control, I have to put so much mousse and gel in it that it feels like plastic. It feels like it would break if you were to bend it. I need help. I am 17 and have been dealing with this my whole life. I have senior prom coming up and I would absolutely love to be able to wear my hair down. I like my curls. I just want to know how to work with it.

Dear Young and Full of Hope: Okay, these are words to live by: “Moisture, now and forever.” The best way to control your beautiful curls (and yes, I said beautiful) is to begin with a healthy hair regimen and a great styling plan.

1. Begin with a moisturizing shampoo, followed by a moisturizing conditioner.

2. Allow the conditioner to remain on your hair for 10 – 15 minutes then comb through to remove any tangles.

3. Always, always rinse with cool, or lukewarm water (this seals your cuticle and locks in the moisture) when rinsing your hair.

4. Towel blot your hair, then apply a leave-in conditioner or treatment. Gently (and I mean gently) comb the product through your hair.

Styling

When wearing curls, try first using a shine serum, then follow with a styling gel. Comb through, then diffuse (only if you really need to) until the hair is about 80% dry.

By applying the shine serum first, you create a sort of seal over the cuticle to give the gel a better no-frizz hold.

If wearing straight, begin by styling with a smoothing styling product. I really like something with a silicone base because it tends to work better, and last in many different conditions.

1. Apply a generous amount to your ends first.

2. Slowly work towards your roots with the remaining product on your hands.

3. Then comb through, and begin air-forming your hair by finger combing your hair to get it about 80% dry.

4. Once 80% dry, take a large paddle brush, and work your dryer while brushing your hair in a downward motion.

5. Once completed, section your hair into manageable sections and style using a medium temperature styling iron.

6. Once the hair is smooth and straight, apply a smoothing serum (or shine serum) like Design Essentials Silk Essentials to add immense shine to the beautifully finished hair. The result will be a beautiful, no-frizz finish, and stunning prom curls.


Dear Rebecca: I have the kinkiest 4 type hair with a nice curl pattern in very back. The crown is the hardest— my kinky hair easily breaks. The front is straighter with not as much curl pattern. 3 strange patterns! I need moisture because when when my hair is wet or dry—it feels hard and crunchy at times! I've tried lots of natural remedies, from honey to shampoo free.

Design Essentials Haircare

Design Essentials Stimulations Super Moisturizing Conditioner

Dear Multi-curl: It sounds like you need moisture, moisture, moisture! Although I love natural remedies, I think your hair needs a treatment that is designed to penetrate the hair shaft. A great solution for you might be Design Essentials Stimulations Super Moisturizing Conditioner. It is designed to immediately penetrate the hair shaft and provide moisture, sheen and manageability to the hair. I would suggest using Stimulations on a weekly basis until you see your hair returning back to a shiny, curly, natural state.

Dear Rebecca: How can I cut down on the time it takes for my hair to dry? It takes forever and my hair is wet at school for hours.

Dear forever wet hair: It’s not forever . . . although it feels like it. Actually a really good way to dry the hair after is a shower towel blot. Section hair into 4 -6 sections all over the head. Secure each section loosely with butterfly clips, or duckbill clips (which can be found at your local beauty supply store). Initially, gently dry the hair with a hair dryer, so as not to pull on your curls. Then section and continue with your morning routine. Remove the clips and shake your hair out and style as desired before leaving the house. You will notice less moisture throughout the hair.

Dear Rebecca: Do you know of any shampoo free products out there that just make your curls really shiny and glossy?

Dear no shampoo: There are so many sulfate- and paraben-free shampoo products on the market. If you are having difficulties getting shiny, glossy curls from your existing products, I suggest starting with a clarifying shampoo. You can find a clarifying shampoo anywhere. Follow the clarifying shampoo with Design Essentials Natural Curl Cleanser. This is a fabulous shampoo! Curl Cleanser immediately imparts moisture, and immense shine to the hair. Sometimes your hair just needs a little deep cleansing to pump up the sheen.

Dear Rebecca: Can you help me with my Seborrheic dermatitis? But, in the last couple of weeks I have had a really bad flare up of this. So bad, just touching my hair caused a cascade of flakes falling.

Dear Flare up: First, have you been “officially” diagnosed with Seborrheic Dermatitis? The reason I ask is that over-the-counter products are generally only going to control the symptoms, rather than stop them. There are a couple of factors that actually can contribute to a bad flare up, which is usually your body’s way of saying you’ve had a large intake of a yeast or sugar. Start by drinking plenty of water. Then I would suggest getting a great shampoo and conditioner that contains ingredients scientifically proven to help control Seborrheic Dermatitis. For example, salicylic acid, menthol, peppermint and tea tree are well-known ingredients for treating your symptoms. I would also recommend Design Essentials Therapeutics, which is dedicated to helping to control Seborrheic Dermatitis. The Anti-Itch Shampoo and Anti-Itch Hair and Scalp Treatment are infused with the perfect botanical mix to help control the symptoms you are experiencing.



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