Q: I really need help with my son's hair. I am not sure where he falls in the curl spectrum — maybe 3c? I want to know how to take care of his curls so they aren't lifeless and frizzy and seemingly devoid of any moisture? Any help is greatly appreciated.
Cozy: Lifeless and frizzy hair is a big problem for curly haired people. The hair looks this way when the cuticle of the hair gets ruffled. The trick to make your hair look shiny and healthy is to keep the cuticle smooth, thus preventing that lifeless look. Keeping your hair hydrated with a leave-in conditioner will definitely help. Try So Cozy Fruity Delight Detangler & Leave-in Conditioner. You can spray it in wet or dry hair and the scrunch. This is great for an on-the-go quick fix. For your regular routine, I recommend So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream after bathing. It’s a nice light cream that will smooth the cuticle, which will make hair shine while getting rid of frizz.
Q: My curly daughter is 5 and has chin-length 3b hair when dry, but it's to the middle of her back when it's wet. We rinse her hair daily and run conditioner through it before school. Once or twice a week, I spend more time with it and work harder on detangling it, but it hurts her. Sometimes I use my fingers and sometimes an extra-wide tooth comb, and always with lots of conditioner. We have tried various products, and it's always the same so I don't think that's it. (The hurting is the same, not the quality of the curl and the look.) She doesn't want to sleep with anything on her head, so keeping it covered in satin while she sleeps won't work. I don't know what to do differently, but she screams the whole time I am doing her hair. I hold her hair near her scalp while I am working so that it won't pull, and I don't know if it actually hurts enough for her to be screaming — truthfully, she can be dramatic. But maybe her head is just sensitive.
Cozy: You have the right idea with the products and wide-tooth comb, but you need to try a different technique when combing her hair out. Section her hair into 1-inch segments. Then, instead of holding the hair near the scalp, take the first section and hold it one inch from the bottom of the hair strand with one hand and comb the small section. Work your way up the strand toward the scalp, eventually moving all the way around the head. That should prevent tugging on her sensitive scalp. I recommend doing this in the tub with So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangling Treatment, which was created for this very purpose. Now that you know how to properly remove the tangles, you need to work on preventing the tangles. Have your daughter sleep with a very loose braid in her hair. That will prevent tangles while she sleeps.
Q: I am a mom of 4-year-old Paige who has long very, fine, frizzy curly/wavy hair. I'm not sure if she is a 2b or 3a because the underneath of her hair is curly, while the top is wavy. It always looks messy, and I really need some advice about what products I can use to enhance the curl and combat frizzies. Should I have it cut in a different style to enhance the curl? I don't have curly hair so I haven't got a clue.
Cozy: It’s not uncommon for a child to have more than one type of hair texture. It’s hard to know if that is your daughter’s situation or if she needs a different cut. It may be that she needs some layers cut into her hair to remove some of the weight, which may be preventing the hair on top from curling. As for the frizz, a light styling cream is recommended for very fine hair. Anything too heavy will weigh down her hair and prevent the natural curl. Try So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream. Not only will it enhance her natural curl, but it will add shine, prevent frizz and help control hair.
Q: My youngest daughter has the same hair as I do (3a). I have never had a good haircut, and have never been to the same salon twice. Now my daughter's hair needs a cut. I have trimmed her hair at home, but it needs to be shaped because it is really weighed down. Being that I have never had a good cut, I don't know what to do with her. I don't want to take her to a salon because they always assure me up front that they know what they are doing, give me the stylist that charges the most as reassurance, and then I walk out with a cut that looks TERRIBLE. I would feel more comfortable doing it myself if I only knew what kind of cutting style I should be using. How do you cut curls?
Cozy: The best way to get a haircut that you are happy with is to have great communication with the stylist and realistic expectations. I remember as a child always feeling let down after my haircuts because I wanted it to look different, yet never knew how to describe what I wanted. Additionally, I wanted the “Dorothy Hamill” cut, yet I had curly hair which could never ever look like that. My expectations were completely unrealistic, and since I wasn’t able to properly describe what I wanted, the stylist had no idea why I was unhappy. To find a good stylist, why not ask people whose hair you admire where they get their hair cut? Check out NaturallyCurly.com's CurlSalons section for recommendations. Also, I recommend that you look through magazines and tear out photos of what you are looking for. As the saying goes, “a picture tells a thousand words”. This will help you and the stylist figure out what you are looking for. Don’t give up on a hair stylist! There are so many talented people out there!
Q: My daughter has 3c hair, and we just came back from a 9-day vacation. She was swimming every day with a swim cap on (hair in a ponytail/braid), and we washed/conditioned it only once during the vacation. Her hair is now in a terrible tangle. It's matted where the braid was and I can not seem to get the snarls out. HELP!!!!
Cozy: Oh my! This isn’t going to be easy. I’m sure you now understand the importance of combing out her hair daily to prevent that awful matted dilemma you now have. You must attack this in the tub with a very generous amount of So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangling Treatment. Hold her hair one inch from the bottom of the hair strand with one hand and comb the small section, working your way up the strand toward the scalp, moving up inch by inch. Eventually try to divide and section the matted braid. Continue to add more Pre-Detangling treatment as needed. That should prevent tugging on her scalp. Now that you know how to properly remove the tangles, you need to work on preventing the tangles. Have your daughter sleep with a very loose braid in her hair to prevent tangles while she sleeps. For daytime, keep her in ponytails or braids when she is active to prevent tangles. Comb her hair with So Cozy Fruity Delight Detangler & Leave-in Conditioner in between baths for daily maintenance.
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