Cozy Friedman shows you how to detangle kids curly hair without tears.

Dear Cozy:

One of my 2-year-old twin daughters has spiral curls on the ends of her hair, and the roots seem rather straight. Her father has curly/wavy hair when it is long as is mine. My eldest has rather curly hair, and is a 3a. The twin's sister is a 2b (non-identical). I cannot figure out what type of hair this twin has and how to care for it. I also think she needs is trimmed all over but my husband is afraid I would cut her curls out and they wouldn't come back. Her hair has never been cut (except for trimming her fringe) and my poor hubby is afraid she will lose her precious curls. I wonder if her hair is weighing them down. Any suggestions?

Dear Confusing Curls:

I can see why your husband is worried about losing those curls. They are adorable. It’s very possible that you may BOTH be right. Perhaps the weight of her hair is weighing down her fine hair or her baby hair may be curly but her new hair may be straighter. It’s hard to know. I recommend that you give her a trim and cut some long layers to help prevent weighing down the hair. No matter what, her hair will look better with a little shaping. I know your husband doesn’t want to lose those curls, but at some point he will have to give in to a trim!


Dear Cozy:

My son is 17 months old and has 2a/2b hair, and I'm not sure what to do with it. My mom, who has pin-straight hair, thinks I should cut it (it's starting to mat and tangle in the back), and my husband, who has 2a hair when he grows it out, is beginning to agree. I just can't bring myself to cut his beautiful curls! How do I get the most out of his beautiful waves and reduce the matting.

Dear Early Curly:

It’s important to keep hair healthy and manageable by trimming regularly. But if you like his long curly hair, there’s no reason to cut it off! Instead, just make sure that you are detangling daily, because this will prevent it from becoming matted. Try using So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangler in the tub. After you apply to hair, comb through tangles with a wide-tooth comb. Rinse. If you do this every day, hair will not get matted. For in-between tangle maintenance, use So Cozy Fruity Delight Spray Detangler & Leave-in Conditioner. This will allow you to comb right through the knots.


Dear Cozy:

My daughter is 2 years old. She has a mix of 3b/3c hair. I've used Johnson's and Johnsons and the detangling spray, but they actually tangle her hair more. She doesn't have the patience to sit and let me comb it. I need help! When she was a baby I would use baby oil and water but I don't think that would work right now. I hope you can help me.

Dear Tangled & Impatient:

No two year old will have the patience to detangle! It can be long and painful. Instead, try using So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangler in the tub. After you apply to hair, comb through tangles with a wide-toothed comb. It won’t take long, and she will be distracted in the tub and won’t even realize you are detangling. For in-between tangle maintenance, use So Cozy Fruity Delight Spray Detangler & Leave-in Conditioner. This will allow you to comb right through the knots without fuss. One last tangle trick to prevent knots is to put her hair in a loose braid or pony, and always have her wear her hair up or back when doing activities that typically causes tangles, such as sports, playground, etc.


Dear Cozy:

My little curly gurly is turning two, and we're having a birthday party. Any ideas on what to do with her hair? Her hair has a 3b-4a range.

Dear Birthday Curls:

I have two words for you: SIMPLE and NATURAL! It’s hard to recommend a style without knowing more about your curly girl, but those two words of advice work for everyone. If you try to get too fancy or complicated, chances are it won’t stay in throughout the entire party and you’ll end up with something you wouldn’t have chosen. Also, you want your daughter to look like herself on this big day. Try pulling the front or sides back in a twist and securing with a great bow, fun clip or great headband. Afro puffs are also a cute style. My other advice is to experiment with her hair a few days in advance, not the morning of the party. The day of the party you want as few surprises as possible. Have fun!



Dear Cozy:

I am the dad of a 6-year-old daughter with VERY curly hair that I want to help her control because she cries when it is brushed. It's just below her shoulders. Any suggestions?

Dear Sad Dad:

The first thing you need to know is that you should NEVER brush curly hair. Brushing it will ruffle the cuticle and cause it to look frizzy and fuzzy rather than curly. Instead, you should be combing hair in the tub with a wide-toothed comb. If you comb when you are conditioning her hair, the tangles will comb right out and there will be no discomfort, hence no tears! After the tub, wring out excess water and “scrunch” in a styling gel or cream. This will help prevent frizz and help keep curls smooth. I recommend my So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream.

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