Cozy takes on the topic of helping your child accept her differences
Q: My daughter is 4, and I'm guessing her hair type is 2a (I'm new to all this). My hair is straight so I have no clue what to do with her hair. It's very fine, tangles easily and is prone to frizz. I've tried mousses and leave-ins, but they weigh her hair down. She also doesn't like much done to her hair. I need help!
Cozy: For fine hair, you need to be very careful to use a light product that won’t weigh down your daughter’s hair. But at the same time, it will help to control and prevent frizz. If you have some control, that will also help prevent tangles. Try So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream. It’s lightweight, but still gets the job done! Some added benefits: it smells great and will make hair shiny!
Q: My 4-year-old is a 4b and she has soft hair, but it shrinks about 75 percent. I always wrap her hair in ponytails, but she seems to be hating this since she is now going to school. When I left her hair loose one day with a band, she said almost all the children in her class (99 percent white) were touching her hair (she started a few weeks ago). I have since noticed that this has left my little girl a bit frustrated and she has constantly said she wants long hair. She told me one day when I was doing her hair that another child in nursery had called her a gorilla. What can I do to help my little daughter?
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Cozy: Children can be so mean, especially when someone is different from themselves or from what they are used to. It’s important that you instill a sense of pride in your daughter that will help build her self-esteem. These are life-long lessons that she will be dealing with her whole life, and it’s never too early to start. Helping your daughter manage her hair is a great step in the right direction! Take your daughter to a professional who can give her a great, proper haircut. Help her to embrace her beautiful hair so that she will feel good about herself.
Q: My daughter is biracial and had the longest ringlets I had ever seen. But they got too long (down to her diaper at 2), so I took her to someone who said they cut mixed hair. I explained to her I didn't want to loose her ringlets. To make a long story short, she cut her ringlets into a 80s shag. Basically she cut up the ringlets and made them waves (many tears inserted here). I thought I could get them back by letting them grow out and cutting the curls in the proper S, getting them blunt again. But they are more like long wiggles then ringlets. Recently my daughter took scissors to her own hair (more tears), but I noticed that where she cut it close to the scalp, it is coming back in with ringlets. Could it be that her hair is too heavy to start the ringlet again, and I need to cut it all short?
Cozy: It’s possible that this new cut is weighing her hair down in certain places, which is preventing the ringlets. Perhaps you should go to a different stylist for a consultation. The good news is that hair grows back, so you don’t have to worry. Perhaps with a few long layers added, she will get her ringlets back!
Q: I have a 4-month old daughter with a head full of 3b/3c hair. I wash her hair once a week with baby shampoo, and use light grease on it. However, her hair seems to swallow it (the grease) whole. It leaves it very dry, hard to the touch and frizzy to the eye. I've been searching the Internet for some suggestions on what to use for her. And, because she is so young, I don't want to use a lot of chemicals. Can you give any suggestions on what I can use to naturally inhance her curls and keep her hair growing healthy?
Cozy: You are smart to look for products that are formulated specifically for your young daughter. I recommend that you condition your daughter's hair as often as possible. Try So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner. It’s gentle enough for your baby, yet light enough that it won’t weigh down her hair. For added hydration, use So Cozy Fruity Delight Leave-In Conditioner. You can spray in wet or dry hair anytime you want to defrizz or soften hair.
Q: My daughter is 18 months old and biracial. She has beautiful curly hair, but I have NO experience with hair like hers. I would like to find a kid-friendly product that will help keep it moisturized and relatively tangle free. She complains bitterly whenever I try to comb it, even when I am very careful about not tugging. I am struggling with my mindset about how to care for hair because I realize that her hair and my hair need different attention. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Cozy: Tangles are the No.1 problem we hear about in my salons, so much so that we actually created a product just to deal with them! Try using So Cozy Lucky Lime Pre-Detangler. Apply to tangles in the tub and use a wide-tooth comb to get through knots. Make sure that when you comb her hair, work in 1-inch sections, starting from the bottom working your way up one inch at a time.