Cozy tackles subjects ranging from frizz to how to get second-day hair.

Q: I am considering having my 6-year-old daughter's hair cut super-short. In the past year, we had two rounds of thermal reconditioning done. I also made the mistake of letting a stylist do a "gentle" relaxer on her hair, which in my opinion ruined it. She had long hair past her shoulders, but it looked very unhealthy after the relaxer was used. She's allowed my hairdresser to cut it in a bob, but it looks pretty silly with the short, super curly curls in the back and the still-straight length at the top. I really like the curls, but know that in order to get those back now, we'll have to cut her hair super-short (which I think would be absolutely adorable). She's agreed to it, but I'm super-nervous to do it. Can you give me any advice/direction here? I am Caucasion and my daughter is biracial. I've never really figured out how to take care of the curl, even after trying everything I could find in the stores. Any help would be appreciated.

Cozy: It sounds like you are on the road to recovery! You have already learned (the hard way) that relaxing the hair can be very damaging and tricky to grow out. The good news is that it does grow out! It’s great that you think she will look great with short hair and your daughter agrees. What you should keep in mind for the future is that both of you need to embrace her curly hair and try products that will help to enhance her curls rather than try to straighten them. As for haircut advice, try looking through magazines or on the internet for haircut ideas that may work with your daughter’s hair and take them to the stylist. That will help you to communicate your ideas to the stylist so that you end up with the cut you want. Good luck!

Q: My daughter has the blondest curls you've ever seen. They are ringlets! I'm always asked if it's a perm. How do I care for them? I am not sure what products to use. I have noticed that they should only be picked through every few days to reduce frizz. I'd like to find a child's conditioner that is light. I have only ever used adult products on her , but they are pulling on the ringlets! So I'm not sure what to do about it now to prevent it.

Cozy: You should definitely use hair products that are formulated for children. You are right that adult products are too heavy and will weigh down a child’s hair. Try using So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner. It’s formulated specifically for children and is infused with 11 herbal extracts, including sweet almond oil and vitamins A and E, which will help with frizz, flyaways and tangles. To help prevent frizz, only pick or comb through her hair when it is wet. If you do it when it is dry, it will separate the curls, ruffle the cuticle and create a frizzy look.

Q: I'm a very straight-haired Mom of twin curlies. Well, they had curls - -in the summer... Especially when our AC went out. I tried a lot of products, including a gel (that worked really well when the girl at the salon used it), several conditioners, some leave-in conditioners and numerous other things that haven't worked at all. What am I doing wrong? They had springy, cute curls during the hot and HUMID summer months. But all winter, they just have truly awful looking hair. Thin, straight, dry -- just not cute!

Cozy: You bring up a very interesting point. The hair reacts differently in different seasons and weather. Humidity brings out the curls, which is why you are seeing those curls in the summer. The products that you use in the summer may be great at that time of the year but they will weigh down the hair during the rest of the year, causing the flat look. In the winter you should try using So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream to enhance the curls. It is very light so it won’t weigh down their hair. Scrunch in wet hair after bathing and let the hair dry naturally.

Q: My husband is African American and I am white, and we have three kids -– two boys ages 12 and 8 and a little princess who will be three in April. She has had a ton of hair since she was born, and it's so long now! My hair is super straight so I don't really know what the best products are to use for her. She's a 3b (I think) and we seem to have problems with frizz. She has nice ringlet curls when she gets out of the bath, but 20 minutes later it's all frizzy. I've tried gels and mouse and they help, but not for long. Forget it if she takes a nap. What type of washing/conditioning routine would you recommend? Any favorite products to keep her curls?

Cozy: Curly hair becomes frizzy when the cuticle of the hair becomes unsettled or ruffled. To prevent this from happening, here are a few tips:

  • Never brush or comb curly hair when dry. I recommend combing curly hair in the tub while conditioning. This will not only prevent painful detangling, but will help to evenly distribute the conditioner.
  • Scrunch in So Cozy Groovy Grape Styling Gel after bathing. This gel is perfect for keeping hair smooth while enhancing the curl.
  • Let the hair dry naturally or use a diffuser with your blowdryer. It may take a little longer, but the curls will settle naturally.
  • For touch-ups after naps or in between bathing, spray in So Cozy Fruity Delight Detangler & Leave-In Conditioner, and then scrunch into the hair to reactivate the curls and get rid of frizz.


Q: I am struggling with second and third-day hair for my wavy daughter. I find her hair looks messy more than wavy. Products seem to work okay the first day, but her hair gets a little greasy looking by the next day. I'd appreciate any help.

Cozy: Perhaps you aren’t using the right products for your daughter’s wavy hair. It sounds like the products you are using may be too heavy for her hair type. Are you using products formulated specifically for children? If so, perhaps you need something a little lighter, that will enhance her waves without weighing down her hair. I recommend So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream, which is a light formulation that will enhance shine, keep hair looking smooth while adding a little natural looking control. You can use this on wet or dry hair, so it is perfect for days two and three!