Cozy Friedman takes on such issues as growing out a relaxer and turning frizz into curls

Q: My little girl is a 3b, When it is wet, it has really nice curls. But after it's dried, it looks dry and messy. I tried the Suave and VO5 products, but nothing seems to work. What can I do to control her wild hair?

Cozy: It sounds like your daughter’s hair is dried out and in need of a good conditioner, which is why it looks like that when its dry. Try So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner and my secret tip — don’t rinse it all out. Leave a little in on the ends for extra conditioning. For even more help, use a great leave-in conditioner like So Cozy Fruity Delight. This will add one more layer of moisturizing help.

Q: I'm really stuck with what to do with my 18-month-old daughter's hair for my wedding? Her fringe is in the process of growing out, and she has curls that appear and disappear throughout the day. She won't wear headbands, and if I tie her hair up, it lasts five minutes and then falls out. She has lovely shiny hair, and it is really thick but quite fine.

Cozy: Think simple! The simpler, the better. I like to use “pinch clip” type of hair clips b/c they are so light & go in so quick, that your daughter will barely notice when you put her hair up. The other benefit of the easy clip is that if you need to fix during the festivities, it will be quick & easy. One more tip, practice and decide a few days prior to the wedding. You don’t want to be experimenting with hairstyles on the big day!

Q: I found this site looking for more information on relaxers. I have a 9-year-old biracial daughter, and she has been getting her hair relaxed for a few years. I'd love not to do that anymore, but its really hard when she's still at an age that her hair is just WAY too much for her to handle on her own. And relaxing just seemed the easiest way to make it not such a painful experience when it has to be washed/styled. Looking back at pictures of her before, I see her beautiful texture and curl and would love to get it back. I think I'm more educated now, and more prepared to handle the different challenges her hair has compared to mine (also curly, just not quite so!). How can I help her transition to her natural texture — 3c/4a. Also, I've had lots of problems learning to use products. Some seem like they're not enough and some seem like too much. And then of course, it could be that I'm not using enough or I'm using too much!

Cozy: Growing out the relaxer will definitely be a challenge! The first step will be getting a really great haircut and making a plan with a professional for the haircuts you will need throughout the grow-out process. Next, you will need to experiment with different hair accessories to help you through the awkward stages. Throughout the entire process, you should experiment with different gels and styling creams to find which ones work best for your daughter and how much to use.

Q: I am a curly girl, and I have an 18-month-old cousin who is also curly. We are the only ones in the family with any wave at all. I want to help my aunt care for my cousin's hair, but I am not sure what's the best way to do so. She shampoos his hair, and that's it. He has wispy little curls at the nape of his neck and at the sides of his head. What should I tell her about hair care now and in the future?

Q: It’s really important for your aunt to embrace his curls and help him to do the same as he gets older. As we all know, ”the grass is always greener” so people with curly hair always wish they had straight hair, and vice versa. As for caring for the hair, keeping curly hair hydrated is key to preventing hair from looking dried out and frizzy. So Cozy Kooky Kiwi Styling Cream is great for young children because it is very light, will prevent frizz and keeps hair smooth and natural-looking.

Q: I am the mom to six children. One of them is a 13-year-old with what could be beautiful curly hair. Her hair was not curly until she was about one, when one stray hair curled on the top of her head. Soon her head was covered with lovely Shirley Temple ringlets. People would always ask if I curled her hair!! As if I had the time! She is now 13, and although some of her hair forms ringlets, it's a frizzy mess in others. Part of the problem is that she had thyroid disease. We have had a difficult time getting her regulated even though she has been on medication for a few years.

What is a good product to use for a teen? I need things that won't weigh her hair down too much, but will give her much needed moisture and definition. Is there a good deep conditioner that she can use? Also, we have been swimming at our pool. Is there extra stuff we need to do for that? I am a wavy and have another daughter with wavy hair. But this daughter is all real curls!

Cozy: Hair becomes frizzy when the cuticle is dried out or ruffled. You are smart to look for a great conditioner, which will keep her cuticle smooth. So Cozy Sweet Strawberry Conditioner is a thick and creamy conditioner, which is just what she needs. For extra conditioning, leave a little conditioner in at the tips rather than rinsing it out completely. Leave-in conditioner will also be important in maintaining well-hydrated hair. You can use So Cozy Fruity Delight, which not only is a leave-in conditioner, but a detangler as well. This will help to prevent damage during comb outs, which will also help to keep hair looking smooth. As for swimming, chlorine is one of the worst offenders of damaging hair! Always use a swimmer’s shampoo to clarify hair. So Cozy Green Apple is paraben-free (as all So Cozy products are) and will naturally detoxify hair and prevent chlorine damage.


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