Comments on: My-Cherie: Gimme Back My Wild Hair! http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair Sun, 19 May 2013 02:09:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Paraty http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-579 Paraty Wed, 29 Apr 2009 08:09:32 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-579 I've realized after spending more time on this site that her blog was not meant to speak to or for all of the kinky haired women, but that she was simply one of us telling her story through blog. Not everyone is brave or articulate enough to share their experience as it relates to hair, and I appreciate her transparency. I was simply disappointed at the time to see someone who blogged about the "kinky" hair experience, make her hair not kinky and the relevance of the blog change. It changed for me because I do not intend to give into that pressure ( you reference) and I am encouraged by people on this same path. I do not think the fashion or beauty industry should be used as a reason anymore than the corporate world that some women work in everyday. A world where expressive style, clothing, and hair is not the norm. I now look to the likes of model Janine Green, http://cache.gettyimages.com/xc/1538133.jpg?v=1&c=ViewImages&k=2&d=17A4AD9FDB9CF1939057D9939C83F106A77533F045B372C65A5397277B4DC33E Wakeema Hollis, http://charcoalink.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/hair-1.jpg Yasmin Warsame, http://www.celebopedia.net/yasmin-warsame/images/yasmin-warsame.jpg and many more for inspiration along side the everyday women I encounter on this site and other forums and blogs. We all have stories and that's the beauty of it. I’ve realized after spending more time on this site that her blog was not meant to speak to or for
all of the kinky haired women, but that she was simply one of us telling her story through blog. Not everyone is brave or articulate enough to share their experience as it relates to hair, and I appreciate her transparency. I was simply disappointed at the time to see someone who blogged about the “kinky” hair experience, make her hair not kinky and the relevance of the blog change. It changed for me because I do not intend to give into that pressure ( you reference) and I am encouraged by people on this same path.
I do not think the fashion or beauty industry should be used as a reason anymore than the corporate world that some women work in everyday. A world where expressive style, clothing, and hair is not the norm. I now look to the likes of model Janine Green,

http://cache.gettyimages.com/xc/1538133.jpg?v=1&c=ViewImages&k=2&d=17A4AD9FDB9CF1939057D9939C83F106A77533F045B372C65A5397277B4DC33E

Wakeema Hollis,

http://charcoalink.files.wordpress.com/2008/02/hair-1.jpg

Yasmin Warsame,

http://www.celebopedia.net/yasmin-warsame/images/yasmin-warsame.jpg

and many more for inspiration along side the everyday women I encounter on this site and other forums and blogs. We all have stories and that’s the beauty of it.

]]> By: ericajoy http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-402 ericajoy Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:00:57 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-402 Wait, I disagree with some of the previous comments. This blog portrays in a very real way the pressures that a woman with afro hair faces to make her hair "conform" to a beauty standard. This is specially relevant since it's written by someone in the fashion and beauty industry. My-Cherie has been really honest and transparent about her reasons for being natural, for deciding to relax her hair, and about her reactions to that process. This blog isn't meant to represent all of us or to model what we should do with our own hair. Rather, it's one woman's story of her experience with her own hair. That's all. And I really enjoy and appreciate hearing her story. Wait, I disagree with some of the previous comments. This blog portrays in a very real way the pressures that a woman with afro hair faces to make her hair “conform” to a beauty standard. This is specially relevant since it’s written by someone in the fashion and beauty industry. My-Cherie has been really honest and transparent about her reasons for being natural, for deciding to relax her hair, and about her reactions to that process.

This blog isn’t meant to represent all of us or to model what we should do with our own hair. Rather, it’s one woman’s story of her experience with her own hair. That’s all. And I really enjoy and appreciate hearing her story.

]]> By: Paraty http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-256 Paraty Wed, 17 Dec 2008 17:15:42 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-256 My personal thoughts were someone expressed by Chenai, but your decision is your own. It's not my place to tell you what you should and shouldn't do to your hair when you are the one to style it/maintain it. In addition, I will not say anything to you here (under the guise of anonymity)that I would not say in person and I am respectful in both. However, I feel that for a representative of the kinky haired women on naturallycurly, they should find someone else (in addition) to write articles directed towards us. It actually goes beyond the personal meaning of chemicals/non-chemicals for afro textured women and into practicality. Your hair isn't straightened for the week, but permanently altered and most of the women on this site, whom you write for, have transitioned away from chemical processes and are attempting to embrace their hair in its natural state. Kinky hair does not simply 'grow back' for most of us, it takes time and years to show any signs of length. This is why it is a journey for most of us and why women have to painfully make the decision to stop relaxing and chop off their hair. I will go as far as saying that our 'hair' means more to us than it may to other ethnicities. It is the crown of our glory (african proverb) and it is shameful for us to not know how to style/maintain it properly which is why many women struggle with embracing their natural hair (if they relaxed for years prior). When they finally do, it is counterintuitive for them to read articles (directed towards them) by a woman who is continuing to chemically alter her hair and speak on styling/maintaining it. It is also slightly offensive that naturallycurly would think your choice to relax could be 'spinned' and somehow still speak to us. As I said earlier that is your choice, and I do not question it since it is personal, but as a representative/writer for us, this simply doesn't work. My personal thoughts were someone expressed by Chenai, but your decision is your own. It’s not my place to tell you what you should and shouldn’t do to your hair when you are the one to style it/maintain it.
In addition, I will not say anything to you here (under the guise of anonymity)that I would not say in person and I am respectful in both.

However, I feel that for a representative of the kinky haired women on naturallycurly, they should find someone else (in addition) to write articles directed towards us.

It actually goes beyond the personal meaning of chemicals/non-chemicals for afro textured women and into practicality.

Your hair isn’t straightened for the week, but permanently altered and most of the women on this site, whom you write for, have transitioned away from chemical processes and are attempting to embrace their hair in its natural state. Kinky hair does not simply ‘grow back’ for most of us, it takes time and years to show any signs of length. This is why it is a journey for most of us and why women have to painfully make the decision to stop relaxing and chop off their hair. I will go as far as saying that our ‘hair’ means more to us than it may to other ethnicities. It is the crown of our glory (african proverb) and it is shameful for us to not know how to style/maintain it properly which is why many women struggle with embracing their natural hair (if they relaxed for years prior). When they finally do, it is counterintuitive for them to read articles (directed towards them) by a woman who is continuing to chemically alter her hair and speak on styling/maintaining it. It is also slightly offensive that naturallycurly would think your choice to relax could be ‘spinned’ and somehow still speak to us. As I said earlier that is your choice, and I do not question it since it is personal, but as a representative/writer for us, this simply doesn’t work.

]]> By: CurleeDST http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-113 CurleeDST Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:48:25 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-113 I love wild hair and it looks really nice on you. I love wild hair and it looks really nice on you.

]]> By: Chenai Seltzer http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-110 Chenai Seltzer Tue, 14 Oct 2008 17:29:47 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-110 Sorry, but speaking as a 4b hair type, if you miss your "wild" hair so much, why on earth would you go & relax it in the first place?! What did you think would happen? I can see pressing it out every once & again, but we all know by now that relaxing permanently changes the texture of your hair, you lose the texture.... In the photo, your hair just looks crimped...much prefer the pic w/ the fro...get off that creamy crack... Sorry, but speaking as a 4b hair type, if you miss your “wild” hair so much, why on earth would you go & relax it in the first place?! What did you think would happen? I can see pressing it out every once & again, but we all know by now that relaxing permanently changes the texture of your hair, you lose the texture…. In the photo, your hair just looks crimped…much prefer the pic w/ the fro…get off that creamy crack…

]]> By: jan macartney http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-109 jan macartney Tue, 14 Oct 2008 12:26:51 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-109 my red (now greying, now3a type)has got straighter as I've aged (53yr old Welsh/Irish woman)- have you found same? Is this usual? What to do as I'm so used to wash/conditioning and leaving well alone. my red (now greying, now3a type)has got straighter as I’ve aged (53yr old Welsh/Irish woman)- have you found same? Is this usual? What to do as I’m so used to wash/conditioning and leaving well alone.

]]> By: Janel http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-103 Janel Sat, 11 Oct 2008 22:18:51 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-103 are you going to continue to relax your hair are you going to continue to relax your hair

]]> By: luvmylocs http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/gimme-back-my-wild-hair/comment-page-1#comment-94 luvmylocs Wed, 08 Oct 2008 01:53:09 +0000 http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/?p=2338#comment-94 I thought you mentioned that your stylist said your relaxer didn't take. Has your hair become straighter with time? I thought you mentioned that your stylist said your relaxer didn’t take. Has your hair become straighter with time?

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