Comments on: Is Curly Hair Intimidating?

By: T Payne

T Payne — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 17:52:27 +0000

I mean, really? I agree with #4 and #6. What woman wants a man who lacks confidence anyway. I’m not going to dumb down my personality to attract a man. He needs to want me for who I am, curls and all. We don’t need to water ourselves down so that men can feel “more comfortable”. Men just have to accept that not every woman is going to be the same and that a real man isn’t afraid to tackle the straight-haired, easy-going maven or the curly-haired, bold-and-beautiful goddess.

By: Fuzzball451

Fuzzball451 — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 04:10:29 +0000

Wow, that’s sexist. If “being me” scares him off, I don’t want him around anyway. Oh, and speaking from experience, quite a lot of men find “strong and independent” women very attractive.

By: onethousandcurls

onethousandcurls — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 16:56:00 +0000

I do think that it comes across sexist, but only because the definition of “feminine” seems to be outdated and stereotypical. I think the aim, though, was to remind readesr to relax and remember that he’s your date, not an applicant on an interview. Enjoy the date. But I definitely think you should dress the way that makes you feel sexy and feminine, and if that’s your power suit from work, fine! You’ll just attract men who accept that…and isn’t that the point?

By: mrl234

mrl234 — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 03:49:37 +0000

This is an extremely sexist article. Telling women how to act feminine so they don’t scare off men? Please! This is ridiculous. Pretending to be something you aren’t is never going to attract the kind of person you’re going to be happy with.

By: Octopus

Octopus — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 17:16:53 +0000

I’m glad other people have commented about this. I can’t help but think that the emphasis on “femininity” is to help men feel less intimidated by reminding them of women’s traditional roles as second-class citizens. Are men really so pathetic?

By: Karla

Karla — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 00:30:26 +0000

^ To the comment on top of me: I totally agree. Even though I do fit “normal” femininity, I know many friends who don’t and their boyfriend/husbands love them just the way they are. Honestly, if a man can’t deal with a woman’s traits, find someone else. He’s probably lacking confidence and insecure about how his masculinity and power will look next to yous.

By: fyrflydrms

fyrflydrms — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 21:33:58 +0000

This is one of the most insulting advice pieces I’ve read in quite some time. Essentially, the advice givers are saying to women who aren’t conforming to societal standards of femininity that they might as well pack it in because they don’t have a chance at dating. Yet they are also saying women should be themselves. Well, what if being yourself means bucking the trends and doing what makes you happy? I’m so glad I’m not stuck in heteronormative land with their rigid gender roles. If that’s what straight men want, you can keep them.