As a matchmaker and resident NYC single gal who runs speed dating NYC events, observing male and female interaction on a daily basis, curly women are constantly asking me if on a first date they should follow Patti Stanger’s advice of getting their hair professionally blown out.
Here’s my take on the Millionaire Matchmaker’s, (who can obviously afford unlimited salon blow-outs), insistence that looking your best on a first date requires having straight/sleek hair. I give the same advice for job interviews and first dates, which can often feel like a job interview. Be yourself. If you’re not the type to wear a suit to work everyday, yet alone at all, than don’t wear one on the interview and give the impression of being something you’re not. If you’re a curly girl that doesn’t plan on blowing her hair out every single day, than why go through all the effort of ultimately misleading your date? You want a guy to be “into” and attracted to you for you, curls and all.
Here’s what I know. Men find versatile women HOT. Versatility in the bedroom, in your sexuality, the way you dress. Think about it. As a woman of curl, you have the option of going straight one night, wavy the next and full-on kinky the third. For men, it can almost be like being with a different girl every night.
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October 28th, 2010 at 10:59 am
Thanks for speaking up and addressing this issue. Could not have said it better myself!
October 28th, 2010 at 12:52 pm
Good article overall, but I find issue with this part:
“There are fewer blondes than brunettes, and they consequently garner more attention from men…Things that are scarce and less available are consequently more in demand. Blue eyes, full lips, a Kim Kardashian-esque derriere and, yes, curly hair exist among a smaller sect of the population.”
These preferences are most definitely not due to how rare they are in a given population, or they would not differ through the ages and among cultures. First a slender, willowy figure was desired; now, Kim’s is the ideal. Fair skin, then tanned or darker skin. Delicate lips, then large lips. Blond, then brunette. (And with regard to hair color, if rarity were the standard of measure, redheads and not blonds would be the ideal the world over. Curly or otherwise textured hair is also much more common than straight hair, just not among Caucasians.)
Currently, the “ethnic” or “exotic” look is popular-bigger lips, darker skin, and a curvier frame than usual, along with a greater acceptance of curly and kinky hair. It’s generally true, though, that the “whiter” you are, the more “beautiful” you are perceived. Blue eyes and straight, blond hair tends to be people’s preference because that’s what they’re told is the ideal from the moment they’re old enough to watch a Disney movie or play with a Barbie doll. Obviously, there are people who can think beyond some of those ideals portrayed in the media and end up with different preferences…those of us blessed with curls just need to find those people until our hair type becomes the ideal again!
October 28th, 2010 at 11:07 pm
Gone are the days when curls (natural or otherwise) look like a “poodle perm” style of the 80s (which is obviously so outdated). With so many good products around these days, you can make your curls look beautiful. In my view, men love a woman with gypsy style romantic curls which automatically soften your features. (I should know, I’ve been with my husband for 21 years, married for 8 and he LOVES my curly hair!)
October 29th, 2010 at 9:46 am
I agree. Besides the extra time and expense to get a blow out, I just don’t look like myself with straight hair. People love my bubbly personality and I think my hair adds to that.
November 3rd, 2010 at 10:36 am
I once blow dried my hair for a date thinking it would look sexier. Well, it was summer and by the end of the night I was a giant poof ball. I’ve learned my lesson. Besides, I get way more compliments when my hair is curly anyway. http://www.wondercurl.com
February 11th, 2011 at 11:08 pm
curly hair exist among a smaller sect of the population…I am offended, and deeply hurt by this statement…since I have traveled a bit I find that the are far more naturally curly people that not…unless you comment was just referring to non ethnic groups….I just dont know what to say….
March 21st, 2011 at 7:36 pm
Agreed. The majority of women have wavy or curly hair – bout 65%. There are just a lot of girls that straighten their hair.
April 16th, 2011 at 5:15 pm
what do “the rules” have anything to do with curly hair?