Oh yes, you’ve seen it: two friends in a dressing room at Department Store X trying on their picks from the shopping floor. One friend says, “Hey! I’m ready. Come and see how this looks.” And the other rushes over for a quick dress inspection, followed by a sigh and a proclamation, “It looks great on you! I’m sure it would look nothing like that on me though.” Heck, you might have said it to a friend yourself. Whether it was at Shoe Store X or Hair Salon X, women compare themselves to anything from the model on the latest cover of that popular magazine or another women walking down the street. Alright, so we compare ourselves; whether it’s clothing, body shape, make-up looks or hairstyles, we’ve done it for ages or even eons. While some comparison can lead to inspiration and motivation, constant comparisons can chew through our self-image and stifle us from trying anything new.
With naturally curly hairstyles gaining popularity, this comparison theory has found a new subject to infest. And in doing so has created a slew of new myths about what looks good or bad on our heads. Has the Hairy (pun intended) Comparison Monster gotten you in its grips? Follow these simple tips to banish this curly myth for good.
No really, the solution sounds simple because it is. The first step to dispelling the myth that “a look is better on her than you” is to stop comparing yourself. Whether the “experts” say short hair looks best on heart-shaped faces, or long-hair should be parted in the middle, stop comparing yourself in envy. It’s not worth the mental real estate. When you find yourself comparing, pick out something about your hair that you love and spend some time thanking God for it. Chances are the woman in the picture is staring at a picture of some look she thinks she can’t get. It’s up to you to put a stop to the cycle!
We all do it. Declare truths that are really half-truths or assumptions. Don’t let your pre-determined thoughts fuel the fear of a failed style. You’ll never know until you try! If you see a look you like, try it! Push that fear aside and give it your all.
If you have super defined spiral curls and long for a big plump afro try using a pick to lift the hair when dry. If you have kinky hair and long for spirally curls try a flexi rod set like I did here. This was after I had convinced myself that I could never achieve the look.
The options are almost endless when it comes to styling curly hair. Versatility is your friend and even if you witness a failed style, chances are there are several different ways to achieve your desired look. You may even discover a look along the way that you like better!
Embrace Every Stage
Are you frustrated because your desired look requires longer hair? Give it some time. It’s been proven time and time again, anything worth having is worth the wait. I can personally say that I wish I had explored more styles when my hair was shorter, and have even thought about cutting my hair just to get a shorter style.
So embrace your hair at every stage. Style it and explore how versatile your looks can be at your current length.
YOUR best look
At the end of the day it’s not about getting someone else’s look. It’s all about feeling the best you possibly can with your styling choices. This goes for your clothing style too. Embrace what you think looks best on you and go for it. Imagine a world where we all had the same hairstyle. There would be no room for individuality or uniqueness. The beauty of humanity is that we’re all created uniquely. Experiment and explore your styling options, and embrace the unique character of your curls.
April is NaturallyCurly's month of Curly Myth Busters. Don't be April fooled by these common curly hair myths!