Big sort of has a negative connotation in my mind.
"Oh my, you look like you're ready to pop!"
"Hey, are you sure you're not carrying twins?"
"When are you due, any second now?"
I've heard all of these in the last 3 weeks or so. But I've also heard:
"You look great. Your belly is perfectly round."
"Wow, look at you, you're all belly."
"That's a basketball right there...you're having a boy, aren't you?"
"If you didn't turn around, I wouldn't know you were pregnant."
"Your belly is so pointy. Boy, right?"
I swear, these lines are so cliche, they seem to come right out of a book.
I take all the comments in stride. But I will say it feels nice to be told you look
small or cute, though, because at the end of a pregnancy, one doesn't feel
small or cute. I definitely feel the extra 20 pounds I'm carrying around. I feel it in my bones, my pelvis, and on my bladder.
In many cultures, the big vs small comes into play once the baby is born. Big, chubby babies are a viewed as healthy or as proof of good mothering or good genes. Little peanuts, like what I produce, are not viewed to be as cute. I often hear, "oh, how old is she? She's so petite." Yeah, yeah. I'm no Amazon and my husband was never a husky man. So I just needed to get over that whole mess and I pretty much have.