I agree that a lot of it depends on what you look like, where you live, and who you know as to when and where you are accepted.
As for "the qualifier" in non-black communities, that "qualifier" is the black parent in terms of explaining how you fit in (which is consistent with claiming both parents in a bi-racial and bi-cultural identity). In my experience, it is easier to have both sides of my background seen and recognized in non-black communities where there is less pressure to "just be black" or "be black first." Other groups don't impose that kind of thinking which is actually rather freeing and nice.
"Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."
"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
- Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)
(taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)