I agree with most of this. I'm light-skinned but I KNOW that light-skinned Black women are generally (not always, but mostly always) preferred to dark-skinned Black women by Black men, for various complex reasons.

Should they be jealous? - well, no one SHOULD be jealous of anyone - it's a negative emotion - but I have no doubt that some are and that's understandable, while others are not and are confident in themselves and what they have to offer.

Light or dark-skinned, we're all Black women and therefore all have to struggle and it works better if we come together to do it.
Originally Posted by Amneris
I find this dynamic very unpleasant. Mostly, I opt out of it.
Originally Posted by love yourself first
What do you mean? You opt out of dealing with dark-skinned women... or Black men... or Black people in general? Or you opt out mentally?

I find the dynamics of racism very unpleasant, but I still interact with white people... I don't have much choice about it, plus I want to.
Originally Posted by Amneris
I opt out of being some black man's trophy, and having black women judge me over my choices in life.
"Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people."

"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision."
- Eleanor Roosevelt (both quotes)

(taking a break from posting starting late august 2009)

Last edited by love yourself first; 08-07-2009 at 12:17 AM.