Is your current stylist willing to learn what it takes to style your curly hair the way you want it?

That would be the deciding factor for me - that she's willing to learn the techniques that will serve you better.
co-wash - Suave Naturals Coconut
condish - Trader Joe's TTT and Refresh
styling - FOTE, shea butter, jojoba oil, LA Looks

Kryptonite: Stearalkonium Chloride, quats