My hair generally prefers the more natural products--examples in my signature. I also rotate products, seldom using any one product more then twice a week.

You may want to start with a hard(er) hold gel. While I don't care for it, BRHG is probably the most popular hard hold gel. Others are ABBA Pure Finish and Giovanni LA Natural.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix