My hair generally prefers the more natural products--examples in my signature. I also rotate products, seldom using any one product more then twice a week.
You may want to start with a hard(er) hold gel. While I don't care for it, BRHG is probably the most popular hard hold gel. Others are ABBA Pure Finish and Giovanni LA Natural.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me