rudee there is NO way you have more hair then me.
Well, your hair likes water otherwise your SSM wouldn't have been so successful. SSM wasn't good for me as you know. Not sure how other porous types did with the SSM? I think goober does it....and it works for her.
So YES it could be some hair must be thoroughly wet to "accept" condish.
I read this on the Natural Haven:
Coconut oil reduces swelling of the hair shaft when the hair is immersed into water
Now maybe for porous heads we're creating the same kind of effect by doing this with conditioner. This is a good thing because we're trying to keep our cuticle from swelling. For Non-porous they may need water to penetrate and get effective conditioning.