someone on another board said he should have taken the initiative and worried about whether it was wrong or not. They had a perfect analogy. It was something about, it is better to be sorry than beg later. I thought that was a good point.
That's exactly what I thought. He should have done it and worried about it later. I agree with whoever said he wouldn't have done it anyway though, since he felt convinced that he had to have 3 people (really he didn't anyway, she was worthless).