I can understand your dresser not wanting you to texturize. Nothing is prettier than a natural head. But they aren't the ones that have to comb it when it gets wet! LOL.
My bangs and middle part are a bit straight at the ends and shorter from that area being left out from when I wore a weave. But it doesn't take much to disguise that. Either scrunching or a headband. My curls are not perfectly uniform but then again if you have a mix of 4a and 4b your hair isn't uniform to begin with.
The real question is what is your hairstyle goal?
My goal wasn't ringlets. I just want the combing ease and the ability to get my head wet without a few hours long ordeal.
Here is one of my hairstyle inspirations
Poo- Deva, Wen, Shea Moisture
Co- Aubrey Organic, GPD DevaOne.
Detangler- Aussie moist, Dove
LI- SM Curling Milk, infusium
KCCC KT on certain days
Oil- Coconut, jojoba,
Goal: Peace, healthy hair and to not spend alot of time and money on my hair.