Please don't relax her hair! She has a fairly loose curl pattern and it will be very easy to manage if you do some more research and use the right products. Try Mixed Chicks products! They even have videos on their website to show you exactly how to use their products. My daughter's hair has been so easy to manage after I learned that it has different needs from mine. Her hair probably only needs to be washed once and week, and using a satin pillow case helps a lot. Is her hair long enough for you to put into one or two english braids? That is a good way to keep it detangled and in good condition. I wish you the best! If you feel that you hate your daughters hair, remember, her hair is a large part of her, and for her to love herself, you need to also.