I have a male best friend...he and I were really close for years, but just as friends. At one point in my life (knowing that he wanted more) gave in, and attempted to date him - that lasted almost 3 mos, but I just wasn't really attracted to him like that! So there was no chemistry (per se) but we got along sooo well as buds that I thought that would be enough...and it wasn't, and I ended it. That all happened 3yrs ago, and we remained best friends despite that whole situation. I talk to him about just about everything: family issues (he knows my family well), job stuff, personal advice I need...whatever.
Anyways, more recently I was asking him advice about a situation between my boyfriend and I (needed a male perspective) and he was just being very negative and kinda CRUEL in his advice - so I told him about his attitude and he came back at me with a confession that hearing me talk about my bf brought back old feelings of hurt that he has from when he and I were together years ago, and that he doesn't feel that situation is my problem (how he feels) but that he just wanted to let me know why he may be coming at me with an attitude....that he's not the best person to talk to about MY relationship issues, and that if I date and get married, that our friendship would have to fade.
It was just a SHOCK to have him talk like that...cause he's never come at me like that before. So is it possible to STAY friends with him? I mean, we've been close for 10yrs!!! I go to him about everything, and I'm used to that...but I also don't want to hurt him, if that's what I was doing...which is what it seems he was alluding to. How can we be friends if I can't even talk about my BF, someone who is VERY important to me?