Thanks for the feedback Goober!
O dear, I may have to make another shopping trip online... must... buy... super-moisturising... conditioners!

Actually, goobernut, I have a weighing-down problem sometimes as well. It rarely kicks in unless there's a LOT of oil in something (my first experience with AOCW was not a good one), but it does happen, so I'm careful. I have extremely dry fine hair - I don't know what's keeping it dry (it's actually gotten worse since I got home and started using soft water, whodathunkit?!), but it's super dry and nothing seems to be enough. It does seem, perhaps, really picky about what it allows to moisturise it, though, and it seems to do best in really humid environments. Glycerin and aloe seem to be my best friends in the summer. Unfortunately, that creates a problem in the winter: low dews+humectants+porous, dry hair = straw. Thus, my search for an extreeemely moisturising conditioner.
Many of these things sound like my hair. I'm still learning, but I i use a rinse out and leave in that are heavy with oils, my hair gets....a bit oily?? it isn't really weighed down. I don't know the right word. Oily(ish) but NOT moisturized. My hair is also extremely fine. I think my hair prefers hard water too. My hair did great last summer with honey and humidity (not super humid in my area). Sounds familiar.
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2a (nc.com) 2bFi (Fia), very fine, thin, low/normal elasticity, porous, CG, doesn't get weighed down
Cowash: Tresemme naturals
Rinse out/leave in: Renpure Organics (red)
Curl enhancer: FSG
Gel: BRHG, Salon care aloe, Ecostyler Krystal (normal dews)
PT: ION effective care, IAgirl's gelatin PT
Low Poo: renpure (red), Ion swimmers