Thanks for the feedback Goober!
Many of these things sound like my hair. I'm still learning, but I i use a rinse out and leave in that are heavy with oils, my hair gets....a bit oily?? it isn't really weighed down. I don't know the right word. Oily(ish) but NOT moisturized. My hair is also extremely fine. I think my hair prefers hard water too. My hair did great last summer with honey and humidity (not super humid in my area). Sounds familiar.
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2a (nc.com) 2bFi (Fia), very fine, thin, low/normal elasticity, porous, CG, doesn't get weighed down
Cowash: Tresemme naturals
Rinse out/leave in: Renpure Organics (red)
Curl enhancer: FSG
Gel: BRHG, Salon care aloe, Ecostyler Krystal (normal dews)
PT: ION effective care, IAgirl's gelatin PT
Low Poo: renpure (red), Ion swimmers