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Magoo · 04-25-2010, 02:07 PM

My son was the same way and I admit it was so hard at times. We barely ever went out because he just fussed and cried ALL THE TIME. I remember at his baptism, he cried and fussed throughout the entire ceremony. DH kept walking him up and down the aisles. I even tried nursing him to sleep at the back of the church but if my son was out anywhere he wouldn't sleep even if he was exhausted. Meanwhile the 10 other babies slept through the entire thing. I can count on 1 hand the times he ever fell asleep in the car or the stroller. Even in the hospital the nurses where surprised at how alert he was for a newborn.

I'm always baffled when I see people go out to dinner with a baby in a carrier that just sits there happily or sleeps. That type of baby doesn't exist in my world. Some things that helped with the sleep especially naps was removing any bit of stimulation possible. His room was pitch dark (I had black out curtains) and I'd put on a noise machine usually to static or rain. Music wasn't helpful for us.

I know how easy it is to feel like you're the only one in the world with the "fussy" baby but I learned to get over it and not let myself get upset over the comments from people. I'd get the "oh, maybe you're spoiling him" or "if I were you I'd do blah, blah..." I don't care what anyone says only the parent of a baby like that can understand what it's like.
Like Madscientist, things got a bit better around the 6-7 month mark when he was able to "do" more. By then he was able to sit up and play and was crawling.
Another thing that helped me was learning to accept that this was who he was and his personality. Even at 5 he's still a pretty intense kid. He's extremely independent, always debates me on everything and is very energetic and active. He's always the loudest kid at the playground and not shy at all. It takes a lot more energy and effort to parent a child like him but I've learned how to approach him.

"Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Kurcinka (sp?) was a good book that a friend of mine gave me that helped me a lot. I cried when I read the first paragraph because it described exactly how I was feeling.

Hang in there and try to take it one day at a time.
We're always here to listen.

04-25-2010, 02:07 PM	#5
Magoo Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 2,208	My son was the same way and I admit it was so hard at times. We barely ever went out because he just fussed and cried ALL THE TIME. I remember at his baptism, he cried and fussed throughout the entire ceremony. DH kept walking him up and down the aisles. I even tried nursing him to sleep at the back of the church but if my son was out anywhere he wouldn't sleep even if he was exhausted. Meanwhile the 10 other babies slept through the entire thing. I can count on 1 hand the times he ever fell asleep in the car or the stroller. Even in the hospital the nurses where surprised at how alert he was for a newborn. I'm always baffled when I see people go out to dinner with a baby in a carrier that just sits there happily or sleeps. That type of baby doesn't exist in my world. Some things that helped with the sleep especially naps was removing any bit of stimulation possible. His room was pitch dark (I had black out curtains) and I'd put on a noise machine usually to static or rain. Music wasn't helpful for us. I know how easy it is to feel like you're the only one in the world with the "fussy" baby but I learned to get over it and not let myself get upset over the comments from people. I'd get the "oh, maybe you're spoiling him" or "if I were you I'd do blah, blah..." I don't care what anyone says only the parent of a baby like that can understand what it's like. Like Madscientist, things got a bit better around the 6-7 month mark when he was able to "do" more. By then he was able to sit up and play and was crawling. Another thing that helped me was learning to accept that this was who he was and his personality. Even at 5 he's still a pretty intense kid. He's extremely independent, always debates me on everything and is very energetic and active. He's always the loudest kid at the playground and not shy at all. It takes a lot more energy and effort to parent a child like him but I've learned how to approach him. "Raising Your Spirited Child" by Mary Kurcinka (sp?) was a good book that a friend of mine gave me that helped me a lot. I cried when I read the first paragraph because it described exactly how I was feeling. Hang in there and try to take it one day at a time. We're always here to listen. __________________ 3b/c fine, thick, porous, protein sensitive Modified CG, CJ Rehab, JCWDT, KCKT, VO5 Chamomile Tea Therapy, CJDF, HEBE Gel/Mousse, Bioinfusion Rosemary Mint shampoo, occasional protein Experimenting with BRHG "If you want the rainbow, you've gotta put up with the rain"