Oh, thank you, AmandaCurls. It really hurt to hear that. (And yes, as a girl, I'm still dwelling on it, thank you very much.) Like, "he thought he could get you because you're second best."

The irony is that he wasn't my type either (too hairy), but I loved him, so it didn't matter. Wish I had the peace of mind
to know that the same was true for him, with me.

Sigh. This is all part of why exes become exes. But, ouch.