Same here. I did find that wearing a leave-in underneath helps but I am going to try to stop using gel so much. Or at least the ones with hard hold. I just started using ORS Lock and Twist gel- haven't decided if I'll stick to it, I've only used it once. That gel doesn't even seem like gel and the ingredients are minimal and seem moisturizing. I don't wear my hair in locks or twists; I just apply and "style as usual." My hair didn't feel dry and hard. I also wore it over Suave coconut conditioner (as a leave-in).
I'll report back later for a review. I'd like to use it a few more times.