Try using ACV rinses and baking soda, I know that cleans the scalp really good. Also google Seborrheic dermatitis remedies, there's websites that have recipes that don't include tea tree. Also try to find products that contain chamomile, I know that helps to calm the flairs. I'll come back with a list of recipes though.
Still loving my curls and kinks!
Products I love:
Ion Dandruff/Seborrheic Dermatitis Tar Shampoo
Elasta QP Conditoning Creme Shampoo
Elasta QP Intense Conditioner
Tigi Oatmeal/Honey Shampoo
Tigi Oatmeal/Honey Conditioner
Organics Hair Mayonnaise
Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In
Shea butter, olive oil, coconut oil, apricot oil, peppermint oil, tea tree oil, and eucalyptus oil