Try using ACV rinses and baking soda, I know that cleans the scalp really good. Also google Seborrheic dermatitis remedies, there's websites that have recipes that don't include tea tree. Also try to find products that contain chamomile, I know that helps to calm the flairs. I'll come back with a list of recipes though.
Still loving my curls and kinks!
Products I love:
Ion Dandruff/Seborrheic Dermatitis Tar Shampoo
Suave Shea Butter Conditioner
Biolage Scalp Therapy Shampoo
Biolage Fortify Therapy Shampoo
Trader Joe's Tea Tree Tingle Conditioner
Beautiful Textures Rapid Repair Deep Conditioner
Shea butter, olive oil, coconut oil, apricot oil, peppermint oil, tea tree oil, and eucalyptus oil