I for one have always had my hair shoulder length and now I am trying to grow it out to atleast past my shoulders.. maybe mid-back length. I totally understand all the complaints in this post.
I used to have my hair chemically straightened until I had a bad experience and had my scalp chemically burned.. not pretty
And I couldn't even get my hair to be remotely close to the feathered look.. it was either plastered to my head straight or trying to wave up.
Just know that your not alone ladies