I had a pretty difficult time with my hair as a teenager. Straight hair was in then (the late 60s) and there were not a lot of styling options then...I used to roll my hair up in giant rollers and sit under a big hood dryer. That gave it a semi-acceptable "flip" -- ever see the Patty Duke show? But if it rained the whole thing just fuzzed out. Lots of bad hair days.
All I can say is that as time goes by, 1) you will get better control of your hair and 2) your peers will grow up and stop being such jerks.