Well, I still feel embarrassed but thanks again for being so nice.
I was so glad I found your response last night b/c I just wanted to wash the dimethicone out of my hair AT THAT MOMENT & really I was about to reach for something bad. Anyway, I used the Burt's Bees, then followed with an overnight deep condition, which I think helps. My hair has a long way to go--it is so dry!--& I obviously have a lot to figure out but I feel as though I'm starting (re-starting, actually) the right way.
Thanks again to everyone!