Thanks so much for the support and information. I think you're right that picking my hair out the cause of alot of problems and I plan on limiting that going forward. I do sometimes 2 strand twist but find that it takes me for ever, but with a bit more regular practice I should get faster so I'm going to keep at it.
Also smartkitty mention the effect of hard water and how that could cause dryness and our water is extremely hard. Should I use a clarifing shampoo or treatment to help with that ?
Thanks again ladies.