So...I started this thread and somehow missed it turning into a huge thing. Okay. Haha.
But nail hit on head, Elly. It's just a much too personal question for the girl working the cash register at Bojangles' to ask me as soon as I step up to the counter, you know?
And it's a question that a lot of my friends have asked after months of knowing me, because they're genuinely curious how I ended up with what seems like such a strange mix of characteristics. I don't mind it all when it's them.
It usually bothers me most when it's relaxed black women who ask the question in a patronizing voice and then ask about relaxers, as if I don't know about them because I'm white, and that's what's preventing me from having "good hair." Ya know?