if i could have full control over the matter, i would have a natural madame. one who loves and embraces their curls... i'd love it, good curl days & the not so good, just as i have those myself, and i believe it would bond us even more.
when i'm out now, i notice and watch the natural hair girls. the ones running around with permed or weave, etc, it's a slight turn off for me... and i always picture them with various natural curls, and i just see beauty.
products: after everything I've tried & loved, I'm now down to just using yes to carrots conditioner. i actually just rub it on my hair while dry, get my hair moisted up with just that, then carefully finger comb/seperate sections of my hair (takes about 15-20 minutes). after that, i hope in the shower, let the water hit and shake-rinse my hair and massage my scalp. once out, i simple let my hair air dry. every now and then, i'll use a diffuser.
btw, pardon my all lower case. i just love 'em.