I think my hair is similar to yours, and agree with KathyMack on the low-poo (too late for your big day, sorry!). My hair actually feels more moisturized with low-poo than it did with trying to co-wash. It may be something to do with coarse or low-porosity, perhaps the low-poo helps the conditioner get in? But anyway - better behaved and better feeling hair with the low-poo for me.
I do almost daily rinse-and-restyle now, but do not wash every day. Can just rinse and either condition (but not co-WASH) and rinse out, or if it's not so tangly can just rinse out and put some leave in and detangle it.
Good luck and I hope you've already figured it out!
2c / C / iii (FIA)
Med-Coarse, LowPorosity, NormalElast (LCLF)
Wash: DevaCare Low Poo
Detangle & Rinseout: Walgreens or Sally's Conditioning Balm (always)
Leave-in: DevaCare OneC (budget choice is GFTN)
Style: ReCoil & DevaCare Arc Angel (budget choices are HESMU or Got2BSpikedUp)