first off, you are adorable! your hair looks good!! and your makeup too.
okay what is the bfn cb? i think i could deal with a little less elongation for soft hair. gel just gives me too crispy hair. how do you like how your hair looks with the oyin bsp vs. the gel? do you have a comparison pic?
also, i think you're right about maybe not raking but smoothing. i was looking at cynthiarf's youtube videos
for advice on wash n go styling and she basically said the same thing you said and in one of the videos she shows how she smoothed in the product and didn't rake.