I understand how you feel about styling, I used to get a little frustrated in the beginning when I tried styles and they didn't quite turn out right. Now I don't even bother. I just wash, condition, DT and place my hair into bantu knots that stay in until the next wash day. I take one knot out and blend into a quick weave if I'm planning on going anywhere but other than that I may occasionally place my hair into a bun.
I get both of you ladies getting the urge to straighten and wanting another styling option. I have seen some beautiful youtube videos of naturals straightening their hair and I wanna do it too!Lol. However I have only straightened my hair once since the beginning of my transition and I'm planning on buying an Instyler for Christmas but don't know if I will do it then or wait until January when I hit my 18month mark. Idk. I really don't think straightening is all that bad as long as you use a heat protectant, don't turn the temp up too high and don't straighten to often.