If that's her hair in your avatar, she and her hair are gorgeous! if your only issue is how big her hair is, then i think you both could benefit from a makeover of the way you think. curly hair (particularly tightly curled hair) is big and puffy and that does not mean that it is bad. coincidentally i have a hair inspiration pic i tore out of a magazine years ago sitting next to my computer and she has amazing full hair like your daughter.
in the meantime, as you both try to transform how you think of curly hair, you could try twist outs or braid outs. that may reduce the volume her hair has a bit.
Last edited by subbrock; 10-25-2011 at 08:50 AM.