I think you need to stop thinking "I can't do that" or "I am not supposed to do that" and start experimenting on what works for you. So if you want to put your hair up, try coating some conditioner on there and lightly running a comb through to gather your hair. That may work for you!
2b/3a, normal/high porosity, fine/medium texture, medium density, low elasticity
Low Poo- Tigi Colour Goddess, Giovanni 50:50, Giovanni TTT (clarify 1X/week)
Condish- CJ Curl Rehab, Giovanni 50:50, Giovanni TTT
Leave In- Slip Detangler, KCKT, Redken Curl Refiner
Style- KCCC, SS CEJ, SS FHG
Treatment- CJ Repair Me! and CJ CR
Dislikes: Too much protein, high glycerin content, and heavy oils