I can't answer for springcurl, but it seems to me that a child could easily resent having their mom miss their events because she's helping other people. Of course it's good to do those things, but if I were a kid, I'd feel that my mom thought others were more important than her own family if she made a habit of not being there for plays, parties, etc.
Originally Posted by nynaeve77
Oh. Yes, obviously that would not be a good balance. I didn't get from spring that that was the case, but I could see that as a recipe for resentment. I wouldn't ever do that - my kids take a higher priority, and the whole point of being socially active is to do it for them.
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