I can't answer for springcurl, but it seems to me that a child could easily resent having their mom miss their events because she's helping other people. Of course it's good to do those things, but if I were a kid, I'd feel that my mom thought others were more important than her own family if she made a habit of not being there for plays, parties, etc.
Originally Posted by nynaeve77
Yes, I dated a guy who's dad was like this. I don't think you should have kids if you don't put them first, but that's just me.