Also what is this furniture collateral? Is it valuable antiques? Original Chippendale chair perhaps?
More likely it is a bunch of old crap he is storing at your house for free. Am I right?
Wile, I hope you were able to get some sleep last night. You know we've talked about the GP's in our families. My brother was notorious for using my parents. It was my mom who allowed this, not my dad, but my mom ruled the house. They were out so much money with him and also supplied a lot for his children. Today he is still the GP even tho' he now supports his family and doesn't need money from the parents.
I remember a conversation with my mom about him and she didn't remember him doing the things he did. I don't think she wanted to know what a loser he was. He was her baby boy and could do no wrong. He was the one that got all the attention and my sister and I were ignored. I'll always resent the fact that my parents had a college fund for him and not my sister and I. We were suppose to just get married and have some man support us. When my brother decided he liked drugs more then school I asked if I could use the money for college. I wanted to go to law school. I was told no.
What I'm getting at is that your parents/mom are allowing him to use them. I do know that YOUR concern is for your parents, especially your mom and for the children. Your parents have made their bed and it is really their responsibility to put a stop to this. Of course they won't, but it really shouldn't be your concern. I feel you really need to just let go and concentrate on your husband and child. You really can't do anything with this situation. It should be left to your parents. They raised him, not you. You are trying to protect so many people who probably won't really see it that way. You need to move on with your own life. Why let him affect it.
If he has a good job and enough money to fulfill his child support obligation, what are you considering giving him money for? Christmas presents for the kids?