First off--don't despair! I have found that if I don't do a protein treatment one a week my hair does the same thing. I love love love "Spiral Solutions" stuff. It doesn't dry me out. I also have found that about once every few months I wash with a baby shampoo (not very curly girl, but it's about what works for you) and follow it with a protein treatment (spiral solutions) and then a deep conditioning treatment (currently either Spiral Solutions or the Deva stuff). My hair is happy then. If I don't do the protein thing, I end up with dry, frizzy, dull, lazy curls.