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Join Date: Dec 2009
Monday, December 12, 2011 at 09:18PM
: Advice on Giving Advice
I lurk over here sometimes but hardly ever post. I don't feel like I know very much when it comes to transitioning because I bc'd like 3 or 4 months post relaxer. My hair matted and I was done. I admire you ladies but I don't have the patience. Anyway 3 years later I don't regret it and I'm closing in on BSL
The thing is recently some ladies (relaxed) were admiring my hair and asking me questions about hair care. I like to encourage people to go natural and things were going good until one asked me about the process of transitioning and being me I said "Oh, I just chopped it all off." The look of horror.
It got me thinking that I get that reaction a lot. When I was relaxed I had two drastic cuts from heat and color damage so I knew when I went natural that I could do short hair. a lot of women in my family have cut their off at least once but I know an early bc isn't for everyone. What can I say that I'm not sending them running away in fear. But I don't really know much about how to handle the transitioning process so I'm not comfortable giving tips. Not only that some ladies tell me they want their hair to instantly look like mine. But believe me it took a lot of trial and error.
Sorry so long..
A black woman's fro is worth a million words- adthomas
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