Hi, I'm sorta a newbie lurker too, bout 3 months in, but I would take a look at the Frizz Ease b/c I's pretty sure that has cones in it, also most body lotions have dimethicone and other things that would be coating your hair. Conditioner won't get these things out so your hair could be coated and that is why it isn't really getting healthier. You said you shampoo, but if you aren't using sulfates, then you aren't getting out the dimethicone and other cones that are in the things you are putting in your hair. Your best bet may by to go totally cone free, do a final sulfate wash, then find a good sulfate free shampoo and some products that don't have cones in them. I have had fantastic results using this method. HTH
FIA: 2b-c/f/i, normal porosity/elasticity I think?

Current favs:
lo-poo: Giovanni
Co-Wash: V05 Kiwi Lime
RO: CJ Beauticurls,
LI: Ouidad Botanical Boost
PT/DT: Emergencee, Biolage Condish Balm
Stylers: LALSG, Aussome Volume Gel