I have no idea what the feathers and fascinator and birdcages are. But then I am so not into weddings. Congrats on getting engaged!!! Having seen your beautiful waves on the 2s board I'll say this:
Fix them yourself and don't let a stylist touch them! Your hair is so freakin' pretty on its own and a half-updo would be a perfect, polished touch. You're going to want your hair well off your face. There are some moments far too delicious to justify having anything but your beloved in your line of sight.
Your everyday hair is special enough. You can always have an emergency curling iron on hand in case a piece of hair doesn't cooperate.