Not really sure how to answer your post. Sounds like a lot going on.
Could it be related to the weather? I know that winter has set in where I am and now I have to change up my routine to keep my hair from drying out. One really good conditioner that works for me is suave almond and Shea butter. Not sure if it is CG though.
Sorry I can't be more help. Maybe someone else will chime in with some suggestions.