I finally found one I like: Nars Sheer Matte. I use the Sheer Glow on parts that I want to have a dewy finish and the Sheer Matte on the rest. It's very expensive but a tiny amount goes a looonnnggg way so I think it will last for years. I was able to test the colors at Sephora.

The reason I picked Nars is that the color match was perfect. Nars has a large color selection.

Thanks for all the responses!!!
2/c-3a Coarse hair med. density.
Protein sensitive but can use occasionally
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Ice Queen!
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets or use a curling brush - classic glamor.
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