In regards to mothers of 1 child - was it your choice to only have one child or were there other factors involved?

(Marah, you posted that you had reproductive problems, but if that wasn't an issue, would you have had more?)

The reason I ask is that right now hubby & I have a 20-month old, with talk about fostering/adoption but in the future.

While talking about it the other night, I had to level with my husband and tell him that I'm simply not ready for another child right now, and I'm not sure when I will be ready. Although I reserve the right to change my mind, at this point in time, on Friday, January 20, 2012, I actually don't want any more children.

I hope that doesn't make me sound selfish. But I always said I didn't want any more children than I can afford... not just monetarily but most importantly, emotionally. I believe financially we can handle it, but I'm afraid that I don't have the emotional capability to "share" myself with another child right now. I would hate to bring another child into this world (or our home) and he or she feel unloved or unwanted.

Ah... I'm rambling so maybe I should stop right here. But to recap: to the mothers of just 1 child, what was your reasoning?
Originally Posted by vegas_curls
I only wanted 1 child....to be brutally honest, I didn't want any kids. I don't ever regret having my daughter but kids weren't in the plans. While she wasn't planned I knew after her there would be no more and I made that clear to hubby. Over the years I've softened and the thought has crossed my mind a time or two but I had my tubes tied the day after her 5th birthday.

With all of this talk, I asked hubby if he wanted to adopt a child he said, "would I have to give up golf? I'm just starting to get good at golf."

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