Awww.....you will get it eventually. I'm still getting to know my natural texture after being relaxed since the age of 6. My mom just didnt want to deal with my hair...but i think its important for all children to know what they really look like bc before i found the hairboards...i had NO idea i had curly hair!! I didn't know black ppl could have curly hair....so keep up the good work with trying!
It's important to kill the ignorance about Black hair.
Depending on what kind of conditioner you are using...if it has protein in it i would rinse it out just to avoid protein overload.....do you have any type of moisturizer on hand?
Have you seen any videos yet on how to twist? It should be easy on her hair as you wouldn't need anything on the ends to hold them in place bc her ends should just curl up at the end of the twists.