I wish I had a good leave in /curl cream rec. for you with some good 'cones, but my hair seems to hate even the water soluble sort. I do have some info. on the amodimethicone /Tricedeth-12 /Cetrimonium Chloride thing though...
According to the CurlChemist
, and Struttswife
(Live Curly Live Free), Tricedeth-12 and Cetrimonium Chloride do not make the Amodimethicone water soluble. They make it water dispersible. Once deposited onto the hair shaft and dry, it becomes non-water soluble.