You and your hair are beautiful. if its taking you more time to do your hair than enjoy it , then do what makes you happy
Maybe you can make a day trip to a metro area and get a balance cut so you remove some of the bulk
If not , do what you need to do in order to manage your hair
I will say though, you have to feel beautiful yourself first no matter how your hair is. It is a learning process every day.
Folks in my family called me nappy and not in a good way from the time I popped out. Took me years to stop living behind my hair.
It will come.