sf honey lightens the hair yes. It brings out red highlights in mine and I'm not even coloring. That's just lightening my natural color.
Jennyfurrens did try honey. She has some pics in her www clickie.
Honey doesn't add shine for me but aloeba
does. I just have to be careful how much I use as it will pull my curl out eventually. It takes about a week though of using it daily.
My hair is dark so good conditioner or oil will add shine so maybe that's why it does that.